[In Response to Date A Girl Who Reads by Rosemarie Urquico (In Response to Charles Warnke’s You Should Date An Illiterate Girl)]
Date a guy who rocks. Date a guy who listens to music and plays instruments. A guy who spends on music CDs instead of explicit books, whose room is littered with shirts of bands. Date a guy who plays music, who has loved it ever since he realized that creating music is an amazing thing.
Find a guy who plays an instrument, it doesn't matter if he does it well, as long as he pours out his heart whenever he does. You'll know he loves music when he discreetly bangs his head when he hears the music emanate from your earphones, but you know he plays it when he starts to airdrum or airguitar, and he does it properly. He's the guy whose eyes will sparkle when you pass by a record store, and whose mouth will widen into a beautiful smile when you give him tickets to the concert of his favourite band.
He's that boy whose face will gleam when he talks about a band, a song, a music video, or a particularly interesting guitar riff or drum solo.
That boy who'll be happy when you give him a famous guitarist's pick or a drummer's drumstick.
Let him know what you really think of Metallica. Tell him what your favourite Beatles' song is, tell him who your favourite Beatle is. Tell him what you think about the classics - Mozart, Chopin, Bach... tell him what you think about the postmodern art. Ask him about his views on Daft Punk, of what he thinks about artists who shift genres because they think it suits them better. Talk to him about Michael Jackson, Pink, Fall Out Boy, The Ataris. Talk to him about Yamaha and Ybanez, Fender and Gibson.
It's easy to date a boy who makes music. Give him a compilation of songs, a mixtape, a gift certificate to a music shop. Give these to him every time. Talk to him in lyrics. Let him know that you understand music is as vital to life as breathing, that only the realest believers in it survive. Understand that he's going to pattern his life after his favourite song, and if it's a love song, realize that behind the lyrics of the song is his passion for you.
Love him for it.
Sing with him. If he understands poetry, he will understand that sometimes words need to transcend into songs to better convey feelings. Beyond the prosic form are deeper things: dreams, creativity, art.
Sing to him. Because a guy who loves music enough will love anybody who appreciates the things he does. You need not be the best singer in the world, but to him you will be. And it'll be you he thinks of whenever he can't find in himself the motivation to perform. Sing to him, because by doing so you'll be his motivation for when he captivates the audience with his soulful voice, his magnificent stringed-instrument skills, his dancing fingers on the piano, his talent with the drums.
Don't fret if you do not sing, or play an instrument. Because for the thousands of years that people have walked this earth, they learned one thing: that people always become better when they do their best.
If you find a boy who knows how to make people at ease, he's a keeper. When you see yourself stressed in the middle of the night, he'll play to you and keep you safe until you're fine. When you see him brow-to-brow with his workload, sit next to him and hum your favourite song, it'll make him smile, give him enough energy to last through the day.
He'll make your life a dream. He'll do the most unexpected things because that's what musicians do. One day you're sitting on the edge of a cliff while he sings to you, the next you sit inside a pub with a group of friends while he's in the middle singing a soulful melody while looking into your eyes.
You will realize then that life is worth it. You will write poems about how he fills the emptiness with his laughter when he creates something, how he makes sure you fall asleep before he does while he hums on the phone. When he gets famous, you will get amazed by how he'll never forget the person who's made him that person he is -- you. He will teach your children the drums and the violin even before they're 5. You will walk down the beach when you're in your seventies and he'll sing to you Ronan Keating or Jon Mclaughlin, and you'll love him more, if that's even possible.
Date a boy who rocks because he'll make you feel like a girl. You'll need a boy who can understand you, if only through music. You'll need a boy who knows how to uplift your mood. If you can only hear and not listen to music, then you deserve no such boy. If you crave for a world that's beyond your imagination, date a boy who rocks.
Or, and this is even better, date a boy who dances too.
